Hi Everyone. Robert Whiteside here.

After a class today, a lady approached me and expressed that she wanted to share a principle that she says works wonderfully for her in getting along with other people. She shared with me the phrase: “Rules, without a relationship, lead to rebellion.”

She explained how this principle helps her quite a lot. It particularly helps her to remember, when dealing with her teen children, that her greatest successes in persuading them to comply or cooperate with her wishes come about through ensuring that she is relating to them well…and less so based upon the rules she gives them.

The rules are certainly necessary to ensure their growth, their safety, and the overall social contract of the family. She stressed, however, that what is essential, and more primary, is how she relates to them, firstly, as persons, and as family members, with dignity and respect.

It was an amazing account of how she uses this principle, at home with her teens and at work with her patients, to gain their compliance, cooperation, and collaboration. This “Rules, without a relationship, lead to rebellion” principle highlights the significance of relating to other people, with dignity, by showing them respect, the need to meet and greet (with a Universal Greeting), and the fundamental foundation that all people are the very best versions of themselves in a social context in which they are valued and respected.